PFLAG Stands By Transgender Love🏳️⚧️♥️
By Tiki Inacay Posey
Our story is one of love triumphant. PFLAG San Diego County, in its own unique way, has been a part of this journey. Our wedding is the tale of love, community, and support.
Although finding love was not one of my goals in 2017, I did. I started attending Alliant International University with coursework toward a doctoral degree and was awarded a PFLAG scholarship the following year. PFLAG has been a part of my love and academic journey ever since.
I met Kasia Celeste Posey during my first year in grad school at a karaoke contest. She looked different back then… she had just started to transition, and despite her rugged exterior, I saw the lady beneath the facade. She was absolutely stunning. No, it was not love at “first sight.” It was the love of a lifetime, from the start. I fell in love with the tender woman I held close to my heart.
We struggled to find a place of acceptance for our love, and began to feel the hate on all sides. Many cisgender people were against our love and even some members of the transgender community, but PFLAG was there. Together, we took this as an opportunity to provide awareness through workshops on “Transgender Love Stories.” Annette Ottone (PFLAG SDC Vice President and AAPI support group co-facilitator) attended one of our first trainings on Transgender Military people.
Over the years, I have partnered with PFLAG through presentations, research, and community. When my mother died, I grieved and attended the PFLAG SDC AAPI support group. When our families rejected our love, Annette stood in the gap until my family could heal the pains of transphobia.
On Sunday, May 15, 2022, I married my best friend. Annette drove 5-1/2 hours to attend and help me get ready. We even took some time to attend the beginning of PFLAG SDC’s AAPI meeting so I could explain my formal Filipino attire and talk about the wedding. During the recessional, our wedding party danced and sang to Annette playing her guitar and a vocalist singing, “Stand by Me.” Thank you Annette and PFLAG for standing by me and our love. We made it, in many ways, because of you.